Question, pages and pages of questions, I check all the boxes that are part of our normal. I check the boxes because its time for answers and time to find the puzzle piece to connect with our son. Time to acknowledge our son is not the accepted normal in the world's society.
In order to support and give him an opportunity to be comfortable in the worlds society, we've realized he needs to be acknowledged as who he is. It is not easy to acknowledge your child is not emotionally "normal". The idea of attending youth group and church terrifies him. Hands flap...tears flow...voice whines...it's too loud....they make fun of me...but he obeys and goes...our heart breaks.
Avoidance of playmates, he was shy. Avoidance of eye contact, he needs to learn manners. Arguing his answer is the correct one, he's rude. Falls down, he's clumsy. Obedient to anyone, he's a good kid.
The reality, his mind doesn't work as ours does. To him the idea of being around others isn't necessary, schedule is. He can't understand he can be wrong, sarcasm is true. Facial expressions don't mean a thing, his hurtful comments are just truth.
We accept our normal because this is God's will and not ours to question. He knows the grand plan and IT IS PERFECT. Even when we can't perceive it.
Our normal now has another name to it....Aspergers.....high functioning Autism. A name that will allow us to understand and give him an opportunity to find moments of comfort in the world's society. The puzzle piece we can add to give him a better picture in life.