This is where I am. This is where I’ve been.
I can blame how my kids are dealing with their issues, Lupus fog, a Celiac attack, or depression. Although it may help distinguish what is going on in my body and mind, blame does not help. My mind is not at ease. So how do I move forward.
There isn’t one solution but here are a few of the strategies I use to keep moving forward:
Give myself a break. Take time to shut down. Read. Netflix binge. Make no apologies for what needs to be done and remains undone.
Move slowly. Choose one thing to do today. Do it. Be thankful I can.
Choose five things. Before I go to sleep I write down five things that made me smile today. Even if it’s just a little.
Assess my body. What physical symptoms am I feeling? Do I need to contact a doctor?
Assess my emotions. Where are they coming from? Am I dealing in a healthy manner.
Repeat my mantra. When my heart is overwhelmed lead me to the rock that is higher than I.
Give myself grace.
Living with an illness is hard. Living with children with illness is hard. Sometimes it’s harder than others. Sometimes it doesn’t make sense. Sometimes it’s overwhelming.
In those moments I’m overwhelmed, I can take a deep breath. Remind myself this is just a moment. I’ll get through it. Good moments will come too.
As this past month has taught me, I may have to take A LOT of deep breaths. Take a few breaks, see my doctor, help my kids process their struggles, visit with friends and talk deeply. Most of all give myself the grace I need. Lower my expectations and remember what made me smile.
What made you smile today?